“Alone, even doing nothing, you do not waste your time. You do, almost always, in company. No encounter with yourself can be altogether sterile. Something necessarily emerges, even if only the hope of some day meeting yourself again.” – Emil Cioran
As a kid, life is often simple. Every other day, I see my five year old neighbour planting twigs in an empty pot and chatting with her doll. I stand in awe looking at her bed of roses and independence. She is painting her own town with her good company…
We often consider ‘staying alone’ as loneliness, her ugly step-sister. Every time we are alone, we pick up our phone and start chatting, switch on the television and turn towards our favourite shows. In this busy world, we do not get the time to spend time with ourselves…
Solitude hands over to you the freakish freedom of stuffing your minds with questions and answers. You grow as a person. You spend more time with yourself, thinking about your life, about what would you like to become in your future. You spend more time dreaming about your ambition, you start imagining yourself as the protagonist of that dream, you feel as if it was all true, as if it was really happening, no matter how crazy and unrealistic they are. That’s the thing with dreams. They come in all shapes and sizes, but they are equally important.
You begin to dream that you are going to change the world. In fact, we all want to leave our mark on this world. Some of us may not recognize this urge, but we all want to change something, to alter things, to create something that will last longer than us.
You spend more time building yourself the way you want. You spend more time somewhere else than your body. The world outside is never as beautiful as it is inside your head… It changes you completely. You become more ambitious, inquisitive and it adds on to your urge of going out and experiencing life to the fullest.
You want to be unique. You want to be great.
You are all by yourself whether you are solitary or lonely. Solitude is a choice and in it, you enjoy your own company, but loneliness feels as if forced upon you and in it, you miss someone else’s company. Solitude is blissful, loneliness is sad and bad. Solitude happens when you get along with yourself, loneliness happens when you don’t.
Solitude is the soul’s holiday, an opportunity to stop doing for others and to surprise and delight ourselves instead. And so I’ve learned to create little islands of solitude in my daily life…